A warm welcome to Raise and Shine!


The fact you have taken the time to find your way here to check out the possibility of a positive parenting course is a sign of just how much you care about your children and the quality your family life. This shows that quite clearly you are already a top-notch parent - so you are off to a great start!

And seeking support makes total sense. Few who have done it would disagree that being a parent can be a very tricky business no matter how much we love our children.

Let’s face it, as well as being deeply rewarding, being a parent can also be stressful and highly frustrating at times, it throws up continuous challenges and we all know children don’t come with an instruction manual! What other such important job would you embark upon without any training? The fact current research calls into question many of the conventional wisdoms of parenting makes getting support even more sensible.

This is the place to be if you are fed up with the nagging, bribing, blaming and shouting that we all resort to in times of desperation and want ideas for a more positive alternative to raise happy, resilient children. We believe that with happiness (in its truest sense) at the core of your family, both you and your children are free to enjoy each other more and are in a better position to “squeeze the juice” more fully out of your respective lives.

Raise and Shine aims to equip parents to feel more in control and in a better position to make their family lives a bit happier, calmer and more fulfilled, with the longer term aim of setting families up for their brightest possible futures.

There is no single effort more radical in its potential for saving the world than a transformation of the way we raise our children.

Marianne Williamson

Laura Markham, Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids: How to Stop Yelling and Start Connecting

“Parenting isn’t about what our child does, but about how we respond.”


All techniques taught are evidence-based:

The Toolkit


Mindfulness (based on ACT model)

Raise and Shine Philosophy: Happy healthy parents = happy, healthy children

Based on an understanding that a parent and a child’s wellbeing are inextricably linked, Raise and Shine provides an introduction to mindfulness so parents get a better appreciation of what mindfulness is and learn techniques specifically designed that are attainable for busy parents.

The Acceptance and Commitment Training (ACT) approach is designed to enable parents to establish their direction, find focus and improve their own wellbeing, as well as to be more present and flexible to the needs of their children.

Positive Parenting

Parents are coached in effective positive parenting skills giving them the tools they need to help them have a positive relationship with, get the best from their children and be at their best as a parent.

For full breakdown of positive parenting course content go to Courses

Coaching Approach

What to expect


Raise and Shine promises:

It’s for real people, real families (whatever form they take) and situations – no passive-aggressive perfectionism here.

We are here to share new ideas and suggestions, not a set of commandants: no one-size fits all – we offer a flexible toolkit you can play around with and see what works for you and your family.

The sessions are fun, interactive and flexible and your comfort is paramount.

Values based – we value values! Helping you clarify and connect with your values, that is, whatever is most important in your heart is core to what we do as this will motivate and guide you long after the course is over

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Course details

Parenting Skills with Mindfulness courses comprise 6 weekly 2 hour sessions and take place on Thursday evenings at 7.30pm-9.30pm. Courses break for school holidays.

A maximum of 8 participants on each course.

Refreshments are provided.

Course dates

The next 6 week course starts on 12th September 2019. 

Price (for 6 week course) £240 per person. Prices include VAT, Course Manual, all other course materials and refreshments.

Please get in touch if you wish to book a Private Consultation if you prefer to work one-to-one with Daisy.

Private Consultations are 90 minutes and include a personalised written plan after each session.

Free talk

By popular request, I am doing another 'Bringing Out the Best in Your Children' taster talk on 27th June at 7.30pm Space@61, 61 Cheltenham Road, SE15 3AF. A great opportunity to get a few very helpful tips and to meet me.

Parenting Workshops in Schools
By request I do talks and workshops for schools, nurseries, PTA's and other parent groups on a range of subjects including Managing Meltdowns, Saying Goodbye to Morning Mayhem, Fostering Sibling Harmony, How to be a Calmer Parent and Never Have to Ask Twice.

Coming soon

I am developing a Nourishing Togetherness: Mindful Eating and Feeding Your Family workshop

I have plans for a 6-week Mindfulness for Parents course for parents who have completed the Parenting Skills with Mindfulness course and wish to develop their mindfulness practice further

 



 

courses

Course Content

Introduction to mindfulness
(based on ACT model)
  • connecting with what you really care about
  • managing your emotions - even when your buttons are being seriously pushed
  • Taking care of yourself
“You can’t pour from an empty cup”
 
Descriptive praise
  • encouraging confidence, cooperation and motivation
Emotion coaching
  • helping children manage their emotions and regulate their behaviour
  • building emotional intelligence and self-esteem
  • fostering strong relationships
Setting up for Success
  • preparing our children to do their best
Rules and Values
  • establishing values and using rewards
Positive Discipline
  • understanding and responding effectively when children get things wrong
Daisy and her kids

Firstly, to be clear: I don’t claim to be an ‘expert’ in either parenting or mindfulness, although I have been actively interested and learning about both for some time. The truth is being a parent is a never-ending learning journey - as is the practice of mindfulness – so I still have more than my fair share of Low Parenting Moments (LPM’s) - and learn new things from my children and about myself everyday.

My commitment to positive parenting came as a complete surprise to me as I was a self-confessed sceptic about the idea of ‘parent education’. I believed that love and natural instinct were all you needed. This was before we hit the ‘terrible twos’ when I found no amount of love and natural instinct convinced my son to get up off the supermarket floor and stop stripping its shelves in a violent rage or to put his coat on when it was time for school!

By chance, in a bid to meet new parents at my son’s nursery (and a chance to drink a cheeky glass of free champagne!), I attended a talk put on by the PTA called something like ‘How to create harmony and say goodbye to the naughty step forever’. Much to my surprise, the content of the talk gave me a lot of ‘food for thought’, challenged my ideas and existing practices. Vitally, it offered real solutions: simple, practical ideas to help establish better communication and encourage cooperation and to achieve a more positive and harmonious home life.

it offered real solutions: simple, practical ideas to help establish better communication and encourage cooperation and to achieve a more positive and harmonious home life.

I was sufficiently intrigued to try it out and the results were immediate. My husband was flabbergasted by the change! This led me to attend a 10 week Positive Parenting Course with The Parent Practice and I subsequently went on to complete The Training for Trainers Programme and I am now a Parent Practice Licensee. The transformation in my own life is what inspires me to want to share these skills with other parents.

Way before children, my career began as a Qualitative Market Researcher specialising in ‘sensitive issues’. When I was just 30 I was forced to take ‘early retirement’ as the health issues I had following a diagnosis of lupus became seriously life-threatening. This humbling experience inevitably led to some soul-searching, through which I discovered mindfulness (way back before it was even ‘a thing’ as it is these days!).

The benefits of mindfulness have been invaluable to helping me better manage the challenges of parenthood (and just about everything else) and for this reason I have added a mindfulness module to the positive parenting course. It is specifically designed to be achievable for busy parents and involves no lengthy sitting meditations or anything too ‘woo-woo’ as (although I love a bit of ‘woo-woo’ every now and then!) I know it’s not for everyone and parents can find it hard to find the time with all their other commitments!

I have two sons aged 8 and 6 and another a baby daughter who is 1 and I live in Peckham with my husband. I enjoy cooking (and eating!), yoga, theatre, camping and socialising with my friends – and these days a sad number of nights in with Deliveroo and Netflix!

  • Daisy is a certified Parent Practice Licensee Trained by Melissa Hood, author of Real Parenting for Real Kids
  • A certified Mindfulness Coach, coached by Albert Tobler, co-founder of London Meditation and co-author of The Rough Guide to Mindfulness
  • She has completed 3 Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction Courses (MBSR) at London Mediation and Jam Yang Buddhist Centre
  • Completed the British Wheel of Yoga Foundation Course taught by Jan Wilding
  • Completed 10-week Positive Parenting course with Parent Practice
  • Most importantly a full-time mother of 2 boys and a baby girl
Finding the Shine

Finding the Shine

Jan 31st, 2019   /   0 COMMENTS   /  A+ | a-
Trying to think of names for this, my new ‘parenting with mindfulness’ venture was a lengthy process that came to an abrupt halt in the middle of one night. From my sleep I awoke with the name Raise and Shine just ‘there’ before me: and without question, that was it. As a former market researcher, it is unlike me to make such a concrete decision without first consulting a wider audience. Not this time. This time I had no choice: not only is it a decent, catchy play-on-words, but it also captures the very essence of what it is I hope to convey. It was a name that I could truly stand-by and work with.

Raising children is sometimes beyond difficult, and the seeming ‘never-ending-ness’ of the challenge can, at times, feel like a tedious and even a painful grind. Lots of wearisome shouting, nagging, reminding, coaxing, shaming and worrying is often involved. It can leave us parents and our children, feeling weary, depleted and battle worn. Although there are those moments that are lovelier than you could ever imagine (such as the warm cuddles with your sleepy toddler, the camel performance at the nativity play or the first time your child makes you lunch and does a decent job!) life for parents can often feel a lot less fun overall. Personal identity feels diminished and for many, the weight of the high-stakes responsibility that children represent is such that the ‘shine’ of life AC (After Children) is lost … or is at least significantly smudged. We find ourselves 'raising and whining'!

This is exactly where I found myself when my two boys were young, just 2 and 4. I was tired, the 2 year old was still waking us regularly in the night, I was managing ill-health and I was facing the usual day-to-day parenting challenges that I was, with hindsight, ill-equipped to deal with effectively. This ranged from the basics, such as getting the boys to brush their teeth and share their toys, to the more complex, such as a child simply refusing to put his seat belt on in an aeroplane causing the whole flight to be delayed (but that’s a story for another time!).

Still, I found my way on the path to Raise and Shine quite unexpectedly. At the time I was on a course studying and practising mindfulness for health reasons (I have lupus) but instantly saw the benefits ripple out to many other areas of life, not least my relationship with my children. It was at about the same time, again, completely by chance, I found myself at a talk on parenting that introduced me to the idea a more positive and effective way to get cooperation from and motivate my children that actually had the practical steps you needed to get you there. Sufficiently intrigued I perused it, and before I knew it all the pieces were in place for me to ‘raise and shine’ – life, for me and for the whole family, became, and has remained easier and brighter.

So, parenting skills and mindfulness for parents and families have become my ‘things’ and I’ve been researching, training and trying stuff out ‘in the field’ of my own family ever since.

So if you want to start ‘raising and shining’  here are some steps to get you there:
 
  1. Develop your own mindfulness practice that is tailored to you and the life you lead. If you need help with this get in touch or continue to watch this space!
  1. Get some training in positive parenting skills so you can build strong and respectful relationships with your children and one where they learn to cooperate and do the right thing because they want to not because they are forced to. Whilst reading books on parenting is helpful there is nothing like joining a parenting course because I find that that is what really what turns ‘nice ideas’ into lived realities. Again, get in touch or watch this space.
  1. This will sound trivial but I assure you it is not (remember it’s the little things that are actually the big things): even if it’s just for a few minutes every day, chose to do something that you enjoy and do it with full presence (that means allowing yourself to notice what you are doing using all your senses … and really get into it!).

    It could be anything from dancing while you clear the dishes, singing in the car, cooking, reading, writing, massaging moisturiser into your skin, drinking a freshly-made flat white, tending a plant, listening to the birds or looking at an old photo – it doesn’t matter - just as long as it ‘lights your candle’ … and remember it’s almost more about how you do it than what you do.

     
  2. And finally, be sure to make the time and space to practice ‘grandma mind’ – the one that encourages and celebrates everything you are, and forgives the mistakes: use it on your kids and yourself and you'll see life will sparkle, glow, twinkle and shine a whole lot more. And no worries if you find this hard (I certainly did), it is a skill that is totally learnable. Again, feel free to get in touch anytime if you need guidance.

Wishing you the best of luck in your raising and shining! Now: go sparkle ...

Daisy x

Nb This post is dedicated to my Granny Barnes. I was her ray of sunshine, she was mine and boy did she sparkle
 
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